The Mall




Outside of torturing our kids by making them see Santa every year, the mall has been a place our family has avoided over the past couple of years. Once our son was added to the mix, it became impossible for one parent to control all three kids and just not worth the tension it would cause between my wife and I if we all attempted to go.

We tried visiting the mall using several different configurations: Luis and Bianca in a dual stroller and Sofie walking, umbrella stroller/dual stroller combo, dual stroller/backpack with a leash, two umbrella strollers, renting one of those car strollers from the mall information booth… you name it. No matter the combo, it was always a nightmare.

A Scarborough Affair

Copyright MSNBC

I feel sick... I am in the middle of writing about the Autism Speaks Leadership Conference, and took a moment to check out a few of my favorite Autism pages to find thAutcast.com speaking of Joe Scarborough of MSNBC associating the horrible events in Colorado with Autism Spectrum Disorder.Please check out the link and watch Mr. Scarborough's comments.

50 Cent: Apology Accepted

@50Cent has now apologized for the offending tweets that he made regarding autism and special needs children. I think it is our responsibility as those that criticized his comments to work just as diligently to let people know that he has apologized. Too often in these situations, it is the bad that gets spread around like wildfire and the apology gets none of the attention.

My 2 Cent

Copyright SPIN Magazine

With the holidays and an illness in the family, I have not been on top of everything autism as I usually am. It is also the reason for the lack of posts in recent weeks. Yesterday, it was 103 FREAKING DEGREES OUTSIDE… so I kept the kids inside and while they were playing and overloading on games and television… I was surfing and catching up.

The article that caught my eye was that the lovely Holly Robinson Peete wrote an open letter to Curtis “50 Cent” Jackson for having used autism as the basis of an insult in a tweet to somebody that pushed his buttons. Mr. Jackson’s tweet (which has since been deleted at Mrs. Robinson Peete’s request) was:

“@50cent: yeah I saw your pic fool u look autistic. I don’t want no special ed kids on my time line follow some body else."

I will give 50 the benefit of the doubt and say that I don’t believe that he honestly feels this way and that he meant these words in jest. Even if he was joking, it wasn’t a wise choice of words on the part of a guy who makes his living… using wisely chosen words.

Autism Dads

You are involved.

You are present.

You consider 5 hours of sleep a "good night".

You are patient.

You have become immune to the stares.

You know that you can indeed give more than 100%.

You drive your child around from therapy to therapy.

You walk for your child.

You have mastered the art of remaining calm when things escalate.

You are a fighter.

You are tired.

You give your wife a shoulder to cry on.

You are a mind reader.

You know it is OK to cry.

You know showing emotions doesn’t make you less of a man, but more of one.

You advocate for your child.

You are engaged.

You go out to eat anyway… screw em!

You scour the web for information.

You hurt when your child hurts.

You are scared.

You survive on no sleep.

You somehow manage to be functional at work.

You wish you could fix it.

You accept that you can’t and love your child unconditionally.

You try desperately to communicate with your child.

You change your priorities.

You raise awareness.

You smile.

You are a master at body language.

You are deaf to the whispers.

You shake your head at the injustice of the health insurance companies.

You have been hit, bitten, scratched, and pinched all in the matter of minutes.

You celebrate every milestone like you just won the World Series.

You honor your vows

You educate.

You laugh.

You have perspective.

You cope.

You have your entire belief structure come into question.

You ask, “Why me?”

You ask, “Why not me?”

You know the greatest gifts you can give a child are not presents, but presence.

You want things to be better, but don’t know if you would change a thing.

You love your child so much that you could burst.

You redefine the word “Dad”.

You are everything a man should aspire to be.

You are the father to a child with autism.

You are a hero.

If you are an autism dad and are struggling to find answers, I would like to suggest a few good places to go where you can read about the trials and tribulations as well as thoughts and ideas of other dads with kids on the spectrum. These are just a few that come to mind of the top of my head, if you know of others, please post them in the comments below.

Happy Father’s Day boys!

Ancora Impartial
Autism Daddy

Autism Light
Bacon and Juice Boxes
Both Hands and a Flashlight
Fathers for Autism
Find My Eyes
Gingerheaddad
Happy Trouble
Jason Hague

Joel on Autisable
Just a Lil Blog

Lost and Tired
Pancakes Gone Awry
Pucks and Puzzle Pieces

Run Luau Run

Stuart Duncan

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