I unbuckled Sofie and she jumped over the bench seat and into my arms. Her face was streaked with tears, her nose was runny and the look on her face was one of being betrayed. I looked over her scalp… it was red, but she was going to live. I administered kisses to all of the spots she deemed needing the TLC and got her some tissues. Luis had calmed down, but Sofie was still going through those breathing spasms a kid gets after a really good cry.
No matter how planned out you have it, no matter how great it goes in your mind… be prepared for it to go NOTHING like that when it comes time for execution.
I asked Sofie if she had ever noticed that Bianca might be different than her. Sofie said she had, and when I asked in what way, she said that Bianca was taller, stronger and faster than her. I couldn’t help but smile. Here is a girl who has an older sister that doesn’t really communicate all that well, still wears diapers, goes to multiple therapies that neither she nor her BFF/cousins have to go to and all she notices are the physical attributes. It was really quite lovely.
I asked her if she ever noticed that Bianca doesn’t talk like she does.
“Oh yeah!” she replied, as if she had never even thought about it before. More smiles from dad.
“Well…” I said, “Bianca has something that makes her incredibly special and different. It is called Autism.”
“Oh. Can I be autism too?” Sofie asked with her head tilted inquisitively.
“Uh… no. Bianca has autism, but she is not alone. A lot of really cool kids and adults have autism too. It makes some things a little harder for them to do… like talking, or listening, but they are people that want friends and want to be treated nicely just like you and me.”
“How did that make you feel?”
“That is how Bianca feels when she can’t get us to understand something, and can’t understand what we are saying or why we can’t do what she wants to do. And when a person gets that frustrated, they get a lot of nervous energy, and that can make them upset. So when Bianca started to pull your hair, she wasn’t mad at you. She loves you so much. You make her smile every day. Bianca didn’t mean it. We do have to be careful though. That is why I always ask you to leave her alone when she doesn’t feel like playing with you. I don’t want her to get that upset and she can’t really tell you that she might not want to play at that moment.”
|As close as sisters can be.|
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