Thursday, June 14, 2012

Autism Dads

You are involved.
You are present.
You consider 5 hours of sleep a "good night".
You are patient.
You have become immune to the stares.
You know that you can indeed give more than 100%.
You drive your child around from therapy to therapy.
You walk for your child.
You have mastered the art of remaining calm when things escalate.
You are a fighter.
You are tired.
You give your wife a shoulder to cry on.
You are a mind reader.
You know it is OK to cry.
You know showing emotions doesn’t make you less of a man, but more of one.
You advocate for your child.
You are engaged.
You go out to eat anyway… screw em!
You scour the web for information.
You hurt when your child hurts.
You are scared.
You survive on no sleep.
You somehow manage to be functional at work.
You wish you could fix it.
You accept that you can’t and love your child unconditionally.
You try desperately to communicate with your child.
You change your priorities.
You raise awareness.
You smile.
You are a master at body language.
You are deaf to the whispers.
You shake your head at the injustice of the health insurance companies.
You have been hit, bitten, scratched, and pinched all in the matter of minutes.
You celebrate every milestone like you just won the World Series.
You honor your vows
You educate.
You laugh.
You have perspective.
You cope.
You have your entire belief structure come into question.
You ask, “Why me?”
You ask, “Why not me?”
You know the greatest gifts you can give a child are not presents, but presence.
You want things to be better, but don’t know if you would change a thing.
You love your child so much that you could burst.
You redefine the word “Dad”.
You are everything a man should aspire to be.
You are the father to a child with autism.
You are a hero.

If you are an autism dad and are struggling to find answers, I would like to suggest a few good places to go where you can read about the trials and tribulations as well as thoughts and ideas of other dads with kids on the spectrum. These are just a few that come to mind of the top of my head, if you know of others, please post them in the comments below.

Happy Father’s Day boys!

Ancora Impartial
Autism Daddy

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Friday, June 1, 2012

Summertime Blues

For 12 years of my life, there was nothing I looked forward to more than the last day of school and the start of summer vacation. I hated school. Probably more than the average kid. I liked seeing my friends enough, but the structure of school and the homework was just not my style. For some reason those three months of summer vacation seemed like an eternity. There were so many adventures to go on and so much to do with friends. Summer meant sleeping in, baseball, riding ATVs and family outings. My friends and I lived it up each summer as we would regularly go to one of my best friends’ cabin on a lake and go boating and tubing. There were summer romances and festivals to go to… all in all, summers were a care-free easy going time.

Now I have a six year old with autism spectrum disorder and summers mean something completely different. They mean breaking old routines and fighting to establish new ones. Searching desperately for summer programs and making sure that we build upon the advances she has made in school with one on one interaction. We are always fearful that Bianca will regress. Summer programs aren't cheap and when your budget is already pretty tight as it is, you want to make certain you are paying for something that is going to be a benefit.